No matter what kind of problem you are going through, I believe you can overcome it. Today I’ll give you 10 methods you can put into practice straight away.
Why? Because I sincerely believe that there is a solution to every problem. I believe the seed of the solution comes packaged with the problem itself.
Sometimes you must change things…and sometimes you need to change yourself. But always, there is a way out of your difficulty.
I’ll begin with the most powerful point…and the one hardly anyone ever thinks about.
(1) OTHER PEOPLE HAVE FACED THIS AND EMERGED VICTORIOUS
There is not a single difficulty that you can go through that many others all over the world have not also been through. It can be:
- a business collapsing
- money loss
…you are not alone. So start to see that any sense of self-pity you might have is actually inaccurate. Self-pity cuts you off from life.
Find those other people who have emerged from this same situation successfully (books, youtube videos, articles) and model their strategy. Or at the very least, take heart in the fact that you now know that so many others have faced it and successfully came out the other side.
(2) BELIEVE THAT IT’S HAPPENING FOR A HIGHER PURPOSE
To the extent that you believe problems are random and chaotic, you’ll suffer and feel like a victim. If there’s purpose and meaning in these events, you can learn, grow, and emerge better than you ever were before.
That’s my personal belief about problems. They’re not random. They’re lessons. And if you don’t learn the lesson, you’re doomed to repeat it (just like school). You’ll end up being one of those people who say, “Why does this always happen to me.” Well, it happens to you because you still haven’t changed.
“You seek problems because you need their gifts”
Pema Chodron said something I think fits perfectly here:
“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know”
Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know ~ Pema Chodron Click To Tweet
An example would be romantic relationships. If you keep complaining that you attract the wrong sort of person, it’s because at a deeper level you are actually attracted to the wrong sort of person. And you’ll continue to repeat this pattern of bad relationships until you change what you desire in a partner. This then becomes your new standard and you simply won’t settle until you find it.
(3) BELIEVE THERE IS AN ANSWER
Your mind will simply not be able to access creative solutions until you fully believe that there is a solution.
When tempted to become discouraged remind yourself, “There is a solution to this if I am fully committed”. Say it 100 times a day if you need to.
(4) RELAX AND DON’T WORRY SO MUCH
As far as I’m aware, worrying never positively changed the outcome of a difficult situation. Have your mental focus be on how to solve this thing, not replaying the problem over and over in your head.
(5) WHAT IF IT WAS HAPPENING TO SOMEONE ELSE?
You can get a better perspective on a problem by pretending that it’s happening to someone else, not you.
Imagine the problem belongs to another person. This brings impartiality and objectivity to the issue. Imagine it was your friend telling you about his/her problem. It probably doesn’t seem like that big of a deal any more, does it? It helps put the problem in perspective and opens you to new creative ideas about what to do.
(6) TELL SOMEONE ABOUT IT
“A problem shared is a problem halved.” Simply putting the issue “out there” to someone else creates tremendous relief. As an added benefit, you’ve now got 2 (or more) minds working on a solution. Why not take advantage of this?
(7) WRITE IT DOWN CLEARLY…THEN BRAINSTORM
Clearly define your issue on paper. This brings much mental clarity about what the obstacles are. Then you can come up with equally clear methods for overcoming them in a brainstorming session.
For brainstorming, write down every idea – no matter how ridiculous or unrealistic it may seem in the moment.
By the end of just 1 day, you’ll be very surprised at how many ideas you have that you can take immediate action on. And yet just 24 hours ago, you were convinced there was nothing that could be done. Now you’ll realise that you didn’t have any ideas simply because you believed there weren’t any.
(8) SET A DEADLINE
You’ll instantly feel better by starting to believe that this thing will be beaten by a specific date.
So set a deadline for the issue to be resolved. Aside from the relief it will bring you, it also forces you to get creative, get motivated, and take action because you fully believe that it will be solved by the last day of next month (as an example).
(9) CALL IT AN OPPORTUNITY, NOT A PROBLEM
Change your language. If problems are purposeful in that they help us change and grow, then stop using the word problem. You don’t have problems, you have “challenges” and “opportunities”.
Take the good with the bad in life, because what is bad today will turn into something good tomorrow…if you choose it.Take the good with the bad, because what is bad today will turn into something good tomorrow Click To Tweet
How many times, with the benefit of hindsight, have you been grateful for a painful experience because of they way it changed you or changed your life? I personally wouldn’t take back a single challenge I’ve had in life because I would not be the man I am today without them.
To help in this regard, when facing a difficulty you might ask yourself, “What’s good about this that I hadn’t noticed?”
(10) IT MIGHT BE THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU
Opportunities often come disguised in the form of misfortune or temporary defeat ~ Napoleon Hill Click To Tweet
Even better than simply trying to solve the issue, what if it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to you?
What would be an amazing outcome in this situation? You can’t go about creating this victory until you first consider it to be possible.
Write down the very best result possible. Something that would make your life even better than it was before. Make it as clearly defined as you can. Then start to believe it’s possible. Until it’s defined and believed in, you can’t make it happen.
Seriously, this might just be the best thing that ever happened to you. Go about making it so 🙂
P.S. Have you downloaded my free ‘Simple Happiness’ guide yet. I set up a special page to give more info on it here. It’ll help you increase your levels of well-being over the next 7 days with 3 simply strategies.
Did you see my post on Tuesday? I made a short video I’d like you to watch. Check it out here.
I hope you’re enjoying my work here at HappyHack so far. Please share my posts if you are. And I’d love to see you on my social media accounts. You can get me here:
Talk to you soon! ?
P.S. Another good resource on this topic: How to solve a problem at the positivity blog.